Thoughtful Ways To Include Your Junior Bridesmaid in the Wedding

When we have a special young lady in our lives that we want to include in our wedding, it can be a challenge. If they are a toddler they can be a flower girl, but over 4 years old and under 15 is an oddity. The best place they will fit is as a junior bridesmaid.

We tend to allow her to be with us at the wedding, but sometimes we forget about them in the preparation. She is to be included in many of the wedding preparations and included in any activity that is age appropriate. She will not go to a girls night out at the bar, but she would love to go for a pedicure or included in shopping.



Junior bridesmaid dress

The junior bridesmaid dress should be what a bridesmaid should wear. You might add straps if the primary bridesmaids are going strapless, or shorten the dress to a tea length, but is should be very close to the same dress.

While this is fun and exciting for the girl who is being treated like the adults with manicures, pedicures, and hairdressing appointments. Resist the urge to try to make her look older than she is. This is a mistake many people make. The beautician and makeup artist try to glam the child up like she is going to a pageant. The end result is a little girl who looks very out of place in your wedding photos.

Fixing her hair with curls and an up-do or just leaving it natural is fine. But the teasing and hair pieces to make her hair 6 inches tall is inappropriate. I like blush of makeup and lip gloss is pretty. Her shoes need to be appropriate for her age. Do not buy her high-heels that she cannot walk in.



The junior bridesmaids are often given the honor or performing at the wedding. If she is in dance, a dance performance in a special dance outfit from a quality place like is in order. Let her work with the DJ for the perfect music for her show.

She may also sing, recite a poem, or read scripture at the reception. Whatever you assign her to do; she will be a lovely addition to the wedding.

Other things your junior bridesmaid can be included in

Here is a list of things you can assign your junior bridesmaid that she can handle beautifully and she will feel like a valued member of the group:

  • Making wedding favors

  • Attending shopping events

  • Helping attendants seat guests (especially parents and grandparents)

  • Passing out programs

  • Passing out bubbler, rice, or confetti after the ceremony

  • passing out seedlings as wedding favors is a popular idea that she can handle


Alternating roles


If your junior bridesmaid is your daughter or soon to be step-daughter, you may want to have her serve as a junior bridesmaid to honor her, but you may also want her to be part of the vow exchange. This is a part of many weddings where families are being blended. The parents write vows to the children to love and protect them. The parents can help the children in writing vows to the new members of the family. Don’t pressure her, just let her know she is being honored.

Including children in the wedding that have a special place in your heart is endearing and it helps get your union off to a great start.